Sending this to my sister asap who had trouble adding a necklace to her outfit because she didn't want to seem like she was trying too hard. We have about 30 years of Catholic school between us.
Sis, the conditioning was heavy weuh! I’ve been asking myself “why shouldn’t I be too much?” And really what’s wrong with trying too hard…it’s surely better than trying too little
Right? As for regulation, I do lots of meditation. This is such a well written, thought provoking article and thanks for linking all the other authors too. I'm excited for the return of blog format writing, complete with pictures!
It’s so real, worrying about being “too much” and honestly I blame the patriarchal systems of the world. And as soon as I blame the patriarchy I can be like “eff that” and then defy it. I think the first step in healing from that is realizing when you’re quieting yourself to fit into some unspoken standard. Now you can honor yourself more openly. I love watching this process unfurl, and sometimes it’s as simple as doing something impractical like wearing an anklet over a sock. I love your week of blazer fits. They really can be empowering. And every single one of your flat lay pics were amazing.
Down with the patriarchy!!! A message I can get behind. I think that’s it, I’ve always been one to stand on the sidelines or fit in to what others think is cool in an attempt to not take up space. Sadly it only a way to dim my light and I’ll be damned if at 40 I don’t live life on my own terms.
The blazers were so fun and allowed me to play around with a piece that is normally viewed as “serious”.
This feels like my inner thoughts! Especially the being seen part and the thoughts around doing too much when it comes to dressing up. I have also been challenging myself to wear the fits i have in my mind, and so far i have worn heels to work and it felt great! Thank you for always sharing your experiences ✨
I had the same feeling for a long time about being too much, maybe as you said it’s our catholic upbringing, even though Latinos tend to dress up with a lot of colors and accessories. We needs to always listen to our intuition and stop listening to that outside voice that is so judgy all the time! Dress whoever you want, because guess what. No one cares at the end, people are in their own world constantly. So next time wear all the jewelry and that blazer to your 8 year old soccer game. I know you’ll be fabulous, because you already are! 😘😘😘
I hear you Natalia, that inner critic can be so harsh but as you said, listening to your intuition always leads you to something exciting. To being more daring and dressing intuitively 🤍🤍
I love every single one of your blazer fits!! And the ‘trying too hard’ is such a thing! I often take an item off, especially for work, as I think people will wonder why the hell im wearing that when really they probably wouldn’t even notice 😅
You see I think you have demonstrated that you can be practical and creative in one outfit. Ie fit for purpose - an outfit you can ride a bike in comfortably. And creative, - whilst looking as though you are channeling a corporate lawyer who secretly wants to teach Pilates.
Hahahah this made me giggle, appreciate the new perspective and reminding me that I can always playfully channel characters through my outfits. I used to do that so much but stopped.
Sending this to my sister asap who had trouble adding a necklace to her outfit because she didn't want to seem like she was trying too hard. We have about 30 years of Catholic school between us.
Sis, the conditioning was heavy weuh! I’ve been asking myself “why shouldn’t I be too much?” And really what’s wrong with trying too hard…it’s surely better than trying too little
Right? As for regulation, I do lots of meditation. This is such a well written, thought provoking article and thanks for linking all the other authors too. I'm excited for the return of blog format writing, complete with pictures!
It’s so real, worrying about being “too much” and honestly I blame the patriarchal systems of the world. And as soon as I blame the patriarchy I can be like “eff that” and then defy it. I think the first step in healing from that is realizing when you’re quieting yourself to fit into some unspoken standard. Now you can honor yourself more openly. I love watching this process unfurl, and sometimes it’s as simple as doing something impractical like wearing an anklet over a sock. I love your week of blazer fits. They really can be empowering. And every single one of your flat lay pics were amazing.
Down with the patriarchy!!! A message I can get behind. I think that’s it, I’ve always been one to stand on the sidelines or fit in to what others think is cool in an attempt to not take up space. Sadly it only a way to dim my light and I’ll be damned if at 40 I don’t live life on my own terms.
The blazers were so fun and allowed me to play around with a piece that is normally viewed as “serious”.
I think your favorite outfit must have been the one including the Tusker t shirt. An ode to home!
Also, after seeing pared like that, I am getting one 😊
Definitely the tusker one, it’s my hanging around the house tshirt and I wouldn’t normally wear it to work but I decided “why not” 😅
Please get one…🇰🇪
This feels like my inner thoughts! Especially the being seen part and the thoughts around doing too much when it comes to dressing up. I have also been challenging myself to wear the fits i have in my mind, and so far i have worn heels to work and it felt great! Thank you for always sharing your experiences ✨
Isn’t it funny how we limit ourselves, when I am sure no one actually cares, if anything you will likely get a compliment for wearing heels.
Thanks for reading and i honestly write as a way to validate myself and others…🤍
I had the same feeling for a long time about being too much, maybe as you said it’s our catholic upbringing, even though Latinos tend to dress up with a lot of colors and accessories. We needs to always listen to our intuition and stop listening to that outside voice that is so judgy all the time! Dress whoever you want, because guess what. No one cares at the end, people are in their own world constantly. So next time wear all the jewelry and that blazer to your 8 year old soccer game. I know you’ll be fabulous, because you already are! 😘😘😘
I hear you Natalia, that inner critic can be so harsh but as you said, listening to your intuition always leads you to something exciting. To being more daring and dressing intuitively 🤍🤍
Exactly
I love every single one of your blazer fits!! And the ‘trying too hard’ is such a thing! I often take an item off, especially for work, as I think people will wonder why the hell im wearing that when really they probably wouldn’t even notice 😅
You are so right, they probably wouldn’t notice. I do that all the time, when really I think we are likely to get complimented.
You see I think you have demonstrated that you can be practical and creative in one outfit. Ie fit for purpose - an outfit you can ride a bike in comfortably. And creative, - whilst looking as though you are channeling a corporate lawyer who secretly wants to teach Pilates.
Hahahah this made me giggle, appreciate the new perspective and reminding me that I can always playfully channel characters through my outfits. I used to do that so much but stopped.